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 从比尔盖茨夫妇离婚想到Silver Splitters: As Bill and Melinda Gates divorce, why are so many 60-somethings starting again?  Marie Claire DorkingTue, May 4, 2021, 8:24 PM Bill and Melinda Gates have revealed they are to divorce after 27 years of marriage.
The couple issued a joint statement last night saying that they had agreed they couldn’t grow old together as a couple.
“After a great deal of thought and a lot of work on our relationship, we have made the decision to end our marriage,” the statement said.
“Over the last 27 years we have raised three incredible children and built a foundation that works all over the world to enable all people to lead healthy, productive lives.
“We continue to share a belief in that mission and will continue our work together at the foundation, but we no longer believe we can grow together as a couple in this next phase of our lives.”
 Bill and Melinda Gates have announced they are to divorce, pictured in February 2019. (Getty Images) Their 25-year-old daughter, Jennifer Gates, wrote on Instagram: "It's been a challenging stretch of time for our whole family. I'm still learning how to best support my own process and emotions".
Court documents revealed last night that it was Melinda Gates who filed for divorce, describing the marriage as “irretrievably broken”.
News of the couple's split will no doubt come as a surprise to many, particularly as in recent years they have publicly commented on the strength of their marriage.
During the filming of Inside Bill’s Brain, a Netflix documentary released less than two years ago, Bill Gates was filmed playing cards with the programme’s director, Davis Guggenheim. “You are lucky in life. And you are lucky in war,” Guggenheim says, referring to the card game. “And love, too,” replies Gates.
Read more: Relate and Rankin pair up in new campaign celebrating the joy of later life sex and intimacy The rise of the later life divorce While the overall divorce rate has actually started to decline, according to Relate the number of couples separating in later life is actually on the up.“In England and Wales, divorce rates among the general population are falling but for over 65s they're on the rise," says Ammanda Major, head of service quality and clinical practice at relationships charity, Relate.
"We see a lot of couples in their 50s and 60s who have come to the conclusion they want different things from their later life and retirement."Children leaving home, retirement, health issues or caring for elderly relatives are often the catalyst for these kinds of discussions."
Experts say there has been a rise in later life divorces. (Getty Images) Major says an ageing population could also be a contributing factor to the rise in couples splitting after many years together.
"We’re all living longer so if you’re unhappy in your marriage at 65, you’re less likely to want to stick it out for what could be a very long time," she explains.
"We’re also working longer and more likely to be financially independent at this age which makes divorce a more affordable prospect for some.
"If you’re having relationship issues we’d suggest seeing a trained counsellor who can help you to work out what you both want and keep things as amicable as possible if you decide to split.”
Read more: How to look after your child's mental health when going through divorce
There are various reasons for the rise in senior splits. (Getty Images) Read more: The subtle changes in language that could reveal your relationship is about to break up Tips for dealing with later life divorce Relate have put together some tips for coping with later life divorce...Relate 整理了一些银发离婚小贴士如下：、
· Do talk to your children about what’s happening. Your divorce is still likely to bring up painful emotions for them even though they are grown-up. 对孩子不说离婚了。尽管他们长大成人，但是你们的离婚还是很可能会给他们有情感伤害；
· Avoid bad-mouthing your partner to your children.避免在孩子面前吐槽配偶；
· Agree as a couple how you will tell the people your divorce affects – children, grandchildren, friends, in-laws – and how you may handle future events you are both invited to.作为一对夫妻，你应该如何告诉人们你的离婚会影响到孩子、孙子、朋友、姻亲，以及你可能如何处理你们都被邀请参加的未来事件。
· Try to keep things as amicable as possible. Let your partner know this is your intention and talk together about how you can do your best to make this happen.尽量让事情保持友好。让你的伴侣知道这是你的意图，并一起讨论如何尽最大努力来实现。
· Do a financial audit covering what your new budget will look like and any updates you want to make to your will. 做一个财务审计，包括你的新预算和任何你想要更新的遗嘱。
· Take some actions that feed into your new life goals – this could be as simple as starting up an old hobby again, booking a holiday or taking up an exercise class. 采取一些行动来满足你新的生活目标——这可能很简单，像重新开始一个旧的爱好，预定一个假期或参加一个健身班
· Practice self-care. Give yourself time to grieve the relationship, talk to trusted friends and look after yourself. 实践自我保健。给自己时间去哀悼这段感情，和信任的朋友交谈，照顾好自己。
Consider seeing a counsellor to understand what wasn’t working and what you want from your life in the future. 考虑去咨询一下辅导员，了解一下有哪些方面不起作用，以及你想从未来的生活中得到什么。
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