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  Photo credit: Frank Micelotta - Getty ImagesFrom Men's HealthIf you’re familiar with the Facebook web series Red Table Talk, you know that Jada Pinkett-Smith has had many honest and emotional conversations on a myriad of topics, but the latest installment may have been the most raw episode yet. For the first time, Jada invited her husband, Will, for a one-on-one conversation in honor of Father’s Day.“From the time I was 6 years old I wanted to be a father,” Smith began the conversation on his evolution as a dad. “I loved how my family was but there were massive, critical deficiencies in my father’s parenting that I wanted to correct.”He described his father, who he referred to as Daddy-O, as a strict disciplinarian, who he implies was, at times, abusive toward his mother. Smith admitted that it caused a rift between them when he was younger. But, he did appreciate some of his dad's wisdom and was able to glean what he wanted to replicate and what he didn’t.
"I learned that everywhere is school. That anything you do, you have to do it well. Getting good grades isn't above cleaning the kitchen," the Bad Boy actor said.Then at 24 years old, he got his initial taste of fatherhood, with his first son, Willard Carroll "Trey" Smith III, whom he had with his now ex-wife Sheree Zampino. Smith was brought to tears talking about the experience.When Trey was born, Will told Jada that his first thought was, “I can’t do it, I’m not the guy."Smith and Zampino split two years later and he described the divorce as the “ultimate failure” of his adult life.And though the Smiths didn’t delve into their own marriage in this episode, they did address the criticism they received from parenting Trey, along with their two other children together, Jaden and Willow—particularly the fact that they let their kids work."Our family has been under the public microscope for a long time. I think people didn't understand why we both valued that idea...of the kids going to work," Jada said. "People thought that we were forcing our kids to work," Will added on."And that it was part of education of life for them in so many ways," the 48-year-old mother of two said.To make up for the time he spent away from his children because of the traveling Will did as an actor, the Smiths opted for homeschooling. "My kids, being with me, is of a higher value than sitting in a classroom."And when it came to his children's personal and professional pursuits, there's no surprise that they inherited their parents' combined all-star talent. Smith's parenting style, which he inherited from his own father, influenced his kids and their achievements in their careers, he explains. For the most part, he said his contributions worked out. He described Jaden working tirelessly for his role in Karate Kid, recalling that Jaden refused to stop working until he could finally master a split. But when it came to his last child—and only daughter, Willow—she fiercely rejected her father's hopes that she'd go all in with her music career after she released Whip My Hair in 2010 at nine years old.
“I saw how much I was making and forcing and pushing the things that I wanted and in that moment I just saw it was starting to hurt her," the 51-year-old said when it came to Willow and his dream for her to earn a number one record. "My desire for her was overriding her desire for her."Willow took a music hiatus until she was a teen. And, when she finally did return, she built her career the way she wanted it, Jada went on to explain.His parenting style shifted to accommodate his kids' feelings: With Trey, it was with his decision to stop playing football after high school, despite getting multiple college offers. With Jaden, it was during his experience working on the movie After Earthwhere Smith vowed to not "push or pound" on him, and with Willow, it was her music career after her hit single."The episode ended with each of the Smith kids giving a personalized Happy Father's Day video message to their dad."There are no rules," Will said to Jada about parenting. "It’s more art than there is science, and, you know, I love what we’re painting."在父亲节特别版的《红桌谈话》中，威尔·史密斯和妻子贾达·平克特-史密斯就父亲的问题进行了坦诚的交谈。威尔·史密斯有三个孩子，他向我们讲述了他的父亲是如何影响他的教育方式的。如果你熟悉Facebook的网络剧《Red Table Talk》，你就会知道贾达·平克特-史密斯曾就无数话题进行过坦诚而情绪化的对话，但最新一集可能是迄今为止最原始的一集。为了庆祝父亲节，贾达第一次邀请她的丈夫威尔进行一对一的谈话。“从6岁起，我就想成为一名父亲，”史密斯开始谈论他作为父亲的成长过程。“我爱我的家庭，但我想纠正我父亲在养育子女方面存在的巨大的、关键性的缺陷。”他称自己的父亲是一位严格的纪律严明者，他暗示父亲有时会虐待母亲。史密斯承认，在他年轻的时候，这件事造成了他们之间的裂痕。但是，他确实欣赏他父亲的一些智慧，并且能够收集他想复制的和不想复制的东西。“我明白了，到处都是学校。无论你做什么，你都必须做好。要取得好成绩并不比打扫厨房重要，”这位坏男孩演员说。24岁时，他与第一个儿子威拉德·卡罗尔·“特雷”·史密斯三世(Willard Carroll“Trey”Smith III)开始了当父亲的最初体验。谈到这段经历，史密斯不禁流下了眼泪。当特雷出生时，威尔告诉贾达，他的第一个想法是，“我做不到，我不是那个人。”两年后，史密斯和赞皮诺分手了，他称这次离婚是他成年生活的“终极失败”。尽管史密斯夫妇在这一集中没有深入探讨他们自己的婚姻，但他们确实回应了身为父母的特雷以及另外两个孩子——贾登和威尔——对他们的批评，尤其是他们让孩子工作的事实。“我们家长期以来一直处于公众的关注之下。我想人们不理解为什么我们都重视这个想法……孩子们要去上班，”Jada说。“人们认为我们是在强迫孩子们去工作，”威尔补充道。这位48岁的两个孩子的母亲说:“这在很多方面都是对他们生活教育的一部分。”为了弥补威尔当演员时外出旅行而没有和孩子们在一起的时间，史密斯夫妇选择了在家上学。“我的孩子和我在一起，比坐在教室里更有价值。”
说到孩子们的个人和职业追求，他们继承了父母的全明星才能也就不足为奇了。史密斯解释说，他从父亲那里继承的教育方式影响了他的孩子以及他们在事业上的成就。他说，在很大程度上，他的贡献奏效了。他描述了贾登为《空手道小子》中的角色不知疲倦地工作，他回忆说贾登在最终掌握分裂之前是不会停止工作的。但当谈到他的最后一个孩子——也是唯一的女儿威洛时，在她9岁的时候于2010年发行了《Whip My Hair》之后，她断然拒绝了父亲要她全力发展音乐事业的希望。“我看到自己挣了那么多钱，强迫自己去做我想做的事情，在那一刻，我看到这开始伤害到她，”51岁的威洛说，他的梦想是让威洛赢得冠军。“我对她的渴望压倒了她对她的渴望。”维洛在十几岁之前就中断了音乐生涯。贾达继续解释说，当她最终回归时，她按照自己想要的方式建立了自己的事业。为了适应孩子们的感受，他改变了为人父母的方式:对特雷来说，他决定在高中毕业后不再踢足球，尽管他收到了很多大学的录取通知书。和贾登在一起的时候，他在拍摄电影《重返地球》，史密斯发誓不会对他“推搡或冲击”，和柳树，这是她的音乐生涯后，她的热门单曲。这一集的最后，史密斯家的每个孩子都给他们的父亲送上了个性化的“父亲节快乐”视频。“没有规矩，”威尔对贾达说。“比起科学，它更像是艺术，而且，你知道，我喜欢我们画的东西。”
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